"...my family had stopped attending church for a while and thankfully around the time I was trying to get over the heartbreak, we had started going back to church regularly. Since we were back in church, I decided to “save myself” from experiencing the literal aching pain of a broken heart 💔 again and determined that I was no longer going to have sex outside of marriage. Just like that I planned to quit, or so I thought. This was after giving away my virginity at 16 and having sex with multiple people. 😬 It took me 8+ Years to truly surrender my body to the Lord and receive His grace to overcome the spirit of Lust that showed up in my life through battles with pornography and premarital sex. (Praise the Lord for redemption through the blood of JESUS)! I am gonna be honest. I have personally tried several times to remain abstinent, but it was always the same…I found myself right back amid sexual sin.
Growing up, my mommy (yes, I still call her mommy 👑) always told my sister and I to either wait until we were married to have sex or … at least make sure we waited until we were 18 years old. While I do not believe it was her intention to do so, her saying that gave us permission to compromise the standard of the Word of God which we honestly did not truly know then for ourselves anyway.
I did have a desire to wait until I was married to share the experience of sex with my future husband😍💍. The challenge for me though was not only did I not understand how to wait, but because of that compromised standard being introduced… I did not know why waiting was so important. So, instead of really holding onto the instructions to wait the words became kind of empty and translated as just another thing to try not to do. So, that is what I did. I tried (albeit very unintentionally) not to have sex."
-Excerpt from 8 Years Til Abstinent by Shantel Patrice Taylor// Click the Book to Pre-Order!